Chat with Kristen
Clearly, I am someone from whom you should be taking love advice. Not only have I been single for four years but I spend my free time on horseback or at the gun range. John Wayne used to be known for his dating skills too. Besides I can promise that everything I say is either true, inspirational or just plain bullshit, which is why I am more than happy to get the advice from you. How do you find love in an empty bed? Or if your bed is full, how do you keep it that way? What’s wrong with men these days? And sadly, what’s wrong with us woman? Throw it down, pick it up, feel free to shoot off your mouth and holler Yippee-Kay-Aye into the great internet abyss. Because after the ups and downs of dating in the modern age, we could probably all qualify for a 51/50.
Kristen, You are just amazing. I remember when this was in the beginning and I thought what a women to put her self out there and to also put the work into it to have the venue to share your experiences. I’m so thrilled for you. You inspire me. Much love, Marcy
Reading your work feels like an authentic peek inside your head…it’s so real. You’ve accomplished something rare.
Hi K,
I like this page and I’m ready to answer a few of your questions.
My opinion is:
How do you find love in an empty bed?
Get out there! Bars, bookstores, coffee shops, movie theaters, parties, housewarmings, museum events etc, anywhere you can that is fun and says to the universe “here I am”…put yourself out there, you know what I mean internet, dating sites, blind dates, but you know that! Best of all make a list of all the things that you are looking for in another person, then study the list, putting a star by all the things you are and any things that you are not, that’s what you work on.
Or if your bed is full, how do you keep it that way?
Communication is key to my relationship, not over communication. Have fun in your relationship. Always remember why you are together. Be supportive of each others achievements and failures. You can not keep someone in your bed that doesn’t want to be there. Always be yourself, the person who loves you for you is who you want to be with.
What’s wrong with men these days?
Well other than the fact that all the good men seem either taken or gay, men have a lot to live up to these days. Since we had so many of our straight men die in war, we are left with less to chose from. The men that are left feel such pressure by girlfriends and mothers to get married and settle down, they end up rebelling. Also they have been nagged by their mothers so much that they just can’t handle relationships. Also there are so many gorgeous girls out there, they hate having to chose one. Just a thought.
And sadly, what’s wrong with us woman?
Women are fucking nuts! We want men to buy us big rocks, pay for everything, take us on trips, fix our cabinets, take us sunset horseback riding, open our doors, kiss every inch of us, massage us, praise us, put us on a pedestal that we deserve, when we feel like we aren’t getting what we want we get psycho and tell them they don’t love us. If he looks at another woman we get jealous, psycho, obsessive, we rub it in his face and make him feel like leaving. Women stay in relationships so they aren’t alone even if he’s Mr. Wrong. I think women want so much to be loved, that we settle for someone we don’t want to love to love us.
I’m opinionated, I know it
Michelle C
you’re opinionated?
I’d like to take a moment to recognize how awesome I am.
I concur with Eilene. I do not concur with Michelle that men are dying in the war, unless I have our dates confused. I think 1938 was a bad year for all of us. Let’s stick with 2009.
However, I personally used the wonderful wish list she suggests and suggest it for all people – in and out of relationships. Excellent tool!
I also agree that there are too many gorgeous girls out there and I advocate that they should be shot. Oh wait, back to 1938 again. Damnit!
Am I the only dude who is reading this?!? I just find it so effing funny AND fun… there is a difference. Hugs and kisses Baby K and keep up the good work!
Love the renovations to your site sexy mamma!
I have read every chapter so far: 1 through 31. Thank God for you – you have gotten me through working at this temp job. I am transported back to the time when we were in our early 20s and partying in L.A. Has that much time passed? Thank goodness we all grow older and change into more beautiful, more powerful women.
Hmmm… have you considered yoga classes as pick-up places? That’s how I met my man. Yogis typically don’t drink much, they have lovely bodies, and lots of sexual energy.
Also, have you joined a writer’s group to get your work critiqued? Friend’s critiques are usually focused on one’s great writing skills or misspelled words.
Om “life is great” swaha namaha.